Behavior management can be a great headache for parents, especially if the current technique of regulating habits is not working. Many parents are sometimes tempted to throw in the towel if the children are simply not willing to clean up after themselves, do their homework by themselves – or just be good kids. The only thing that brings back sanity is the realization that, ‘yes, this is my child and I want the best for him/her.’
Behavior Management For Kids
All is not lost, though. In fact, there are a number of effective ways to monitor and manage the behavior of a child. The best way to choose a system that works is to apply some criteria for picking it. For starters, the technique should work without making you, the parent, seem nagging to the kids. It should also be a simple system that does not come before your character and paint a different picture about you, to the young ones. Moreover, it should not be too brutal (in the way of those who go against it) as to create resentment from your own kids – but seeks to balance between parental tenderness and moral firmness.
The reason for its effectiveness is that it fits kids of all ages. In this system, discipline is fostered through the recognition of desired habits from their actions, motivating the expression of the habits in future by giving a simple reward.
For younger kids, the rewards need not be monetary. Use of charts and stickers to manage the behavior of several kids at a go, usually suffices. For example, one can create an association of good habits with certain colors and discouraged habits with different colors. For instance, you can design a chart that has a green color for ‘good behavior’ and yellow color for a ‘warning’; and red color for ‘bad zone’ and a pink color for ‘showing improvement’.
In the morning, all the children names are in the green zone. As the time goes by, the names are rotated around the chart as required. Care should be taken not to overuse the red and the yellow regions, as this would create resentment. The system should be used in targeting a few habits at a go, usually two to four behaviors. It is helpful to pick the behavior that your child is already good at, another that the child is working on; and finally, the one that they are struggling with.
For older children, the token economy works in a different manner. For every impressive improvement in a target area, there is a token which acts as a reward. The child accumulates the tokens for as long as they wish; given that they can be redeemed for some pocket – money. In the end, the child will be well – behaved, with the desired habits and also a means of getting their projects funded by the parent, without too much hassle; and both sides win. One behavior management system for kids that fits all these is the reward system Wikipedia here and more here.